Today I’ll be honest with you and expect the same in return
Women like being chased after
They want to be wanted by a man
And men want to win the girl
So they go chasing after her
Valentine’s day is long gone
A day devoted to loving your spouse or significant other in special ways
But there is this one word associated with love that keeps reverberating in my soul
PURSUE
It’s a word I’ve been thinking about for days now
A word that has caused me to find myself daydreaming of relationships often
Relationships where men are pursuing after their one love
But then I think what in the world does this whole pursue thing even mean
Women want men to pursue them
Old school society tells us men should be the pursuer in the relationship
But what does that mean
And what does that practically look like
With these questions running through my head for days now
I’ve stumbled upon some answers
Maybe you’ll agree or maybe you won’t
Either way could be fun conversations
I started my research with the literal meaning of pursue
And initially came to some brutal meanings about overtaking or capturing things/people
Then I got to the good stuff
The stuff I was looking for
Pursue: to strive to gain
to proceed along the course
to carry further
to court
to persistently seek
As I read these definitions the puzzle was slowing being completed
A man should strive to gain his crush
A man should proceed along the course of a relationship with his love
A man should continue to carry the relationship further
A man should court and treat his love special
A man should persistently seek his woman
Yeah these are ways in which a man should actively pursue a woman
I agreed with what I found
I was pretty content with what I had discovered
But I just couldn’t shake a thought in my head
Shouldn’t I be pursuing too?
Yeah so I get I’m not a man
And I’m not pursuing a woman
But there is still pursuing for me to do
This whole pursue thing isn’t just something a man should do to a woman
He is interested in having a relationship with
Pursuing people is how to live a full life
I should strive to gain other people’s stories
I should want to know their lives because God has created each of us with
A unique story and they can offer wisdom to me
I should proceed along the course of a relationship
With the woman I encounter at the coffee shop
Because that day she may just need to know she is noticed and cared about by a stranger
I should continue to carry the friendship further
Getting to know that person more and more because I want to be a listener
I should persistently seek these friendships
Because God uses others to bless and I should want to be that same blessing
But my favorite is courting
I should be showing every person I come in contact with how special they are
I should be paying attention to others
I should be inviting to them
I should make sure they know they are loved
I should be courting these people I meet
I should be pursuing the people I see
Who are you pursuing?
Thanks for constantly pursuing me in our friendship! You continually teach me what that word really means! Love you.